Women may fault men saying they don’t like to cuddle and jump too quickly to s*xual intercourse. My practice as well as the Kinsey Institute for Research in s*x, Gender and Reproduction suggests this is not true. According to Kinsey’s research, among couples in committed relationships, tenderness may be more important to the man than the woman; regular kisses and cuddling lead to greater relationship satisfaction in men than in their partners, especially as they grow older. When I talk to couples and ask them to list the number one problem in their relationships, it is men, not women saying the lack of intimacy. When I question further, they talk about missing the touching, caressing, and soft talking they once shared with their partner.
You can cuddle anywhere, which makes it convenient, but being captive together makes it more special. Places like airplanes or movie theatres are a great place to begin cuddling.
No one likes to cuddle on a hard surface, so make sure you have a “cuddle sofa,” or overstuffed chair where you both fit comfortably.
No one likes to cuddle with a computer on their partner’s lap, so get rid of laptops, cell phones, iPhones, and iPads.
Smoking while cuddling is not wise. Getting burned or the smell of smoke in your face causes coughing and disgust.
Talking softly while cuddling is desired.
Kissing is not necessary, but is nice while cuddling.
Being a good listener while cuddling is also important, remember your partner will feel more secure and may want to tell you things they have not said before.
Being gentle is part of cuddling.
Cuddling has no objective other than to feel close to your partner…so don’t rush to finish.
Cuddling is helping your partner and you to be healthier with lower blood pressure and respirations. Imagine your ability to heal.
Whenever I talk to a person who lost their spouse and I ask them what they miss most, they tell me many things. At the top of their list is the sense of being held by that person. The hugs, the way their skin smelled, and how that person made their body feel when they were near. Stress, illness, and depression can affect s*xual performance, but anyone can cuddle. A couple’s ability to cuddle, not to perform s*x, is one of the best predictors of an emotionally/physically close, happy, and healthy relationship. –Mary Jo Rapini
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Thursday, March 23rd 2017 at 8:49AM
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