1. "What do you hope you will contribute to our marriage?"
Listen to what your loved one says about his/her initiative, creativity, and care. Consider these contributions and weigh them within the hopes and dreams you are bringing to the marriage.
How do your loved one's contributions align with your own expectations?"
2. "How would you describe your childhood?"
Psychologists and sociologists tell us that most of our adult patterns of behavior, fears, and personality traits are formed within the first years of childhood. Therefore it stands to reason that our childhood environments have much to tell us about each other.
Talking about our childhoods is one of the best ways to gain a greater understanding of another person. And, since we remember in a narrative, most of our childhood recollections have become stories--events now somewhat larger than life that have helped to define us. Ask this question and i think you will find the stories cannot be exhausted in one sitting. Our memories are a deep well, and they tell us much about where we have come from, how we are likely to behave and feel, and why we have established certain patterns and habits in our lives.
Source: Book - Todd Outcalt: Before You Say "I Do"
Posted By: How May I Help You NC
Monday, January 9th 2017 at 11:40AM
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