This month has been rehab for my body, and all along I've been totally aware that it's rehab for my mind, heart, spirit and soul, too.
Body wise, I may have looked strong, I may have acted strong, I may have been able to walk and stretch and dance, but actually I wasn't strong at all. I was a house of cards waiting to be blown away.
It wasn't that I wasn't in shape, it's that the shape I was in was all out of balance. So out of balance that it easily fell apart.
And because I love to follow the trail of things, the train of how things work together, I spent much of this month learning about "Compensatory Torque" - and how it works in our bodies, and in all of our lives.
Here's what I found about me:
Some of my muscles got weak. The smaller muscles, the deeper ones that are meant for specialized jobs got sidelined (for lots of reasons). These smaller, specialized muscles are underneath the bigger muscles that we know about -- the quads, the glutes, the abs.
But these smaller muscles are responsible for doing certain things, and if they get weak and stop doing their jobs, other muscles that are really not supposed to be doing that job takeover.
Yes, we always want to find out the "how" and "why" of those small muscles getting weak --
(It can be stress and tension and illness and bruises and scrapes and sprains that happened long ago that caused certain areas of your body to stop functioning the way they're supposed to.
It can be what you eat. It can be the kind of repetitive actions you do all the time.
For me, I'm sure it was a combination of all these things.
And yet - the "why" is only good for "discovery." We still have to go for the "fix." We still have to "undo."
In the process of the "torque" - not only do the bigger muscle groups start to take over for the small muscle groups -- one side of your body starts to take over for the other side.
So a week glute on my right side causes all muscles on that side of my body to change the way they operate- and then the left side of my body takes up the slack. Before you know it, you're twisted, you're turned and you are torqued.
"Compensatory" is the part where one muscle group takes over for another. "Torque" is how when the wrong muscles take over for the right muscles you get all twisted.
So when you're torqued, to undo the twist, you have to start strengthening the weak muscles and really focus your attention on changing the patterns of your posture, the way you walk and stand, the way you do things. It's a super exercise in body awareness.
So how does this work for your soul? For your heart? For your mental state?
Imagine a tree is growing, and it's leafing. Let's say one side doesn't get sun, and some of its branches wither and get cut off, or the tree gets pruned on one side.
What the life force of the tree wants is to keep growing -- and so it grows the other side of the tree.
And now you have a lopsided tree.
Just like a tree - our bodies, our hearts, our minds want to be balanced.
We want to be full on all sides and feel symmetrical. But you've seen how most trees achieve this -- with a lot of twisted branches.
We always torque away from pain.
So now's the time to get aware of the pain when it shows up in a strong triggered reaction.
And now's the time to not run away from the pain.
It's not the pain itself that torques you, it's the running away from the pain. It's the instinct to get away from it that twists you.
If you're feeling like running away from the eight hours a day you spend at work, or the little money you're making, or the business that seems to be taking forever to get off the ground, or the marketing campaign that feels like it's damaging your heart and soul - let's schedule private time for you and I to talk.
If your entrepreneurial or corporate ladder-climbing day-to-day seems so totally conflicted with your romantic life (or the other way around!) and you're losing your motivation for nearly everything - talk to me.
It doesn't have to be like that. It doesn't, in fact, have to be any way you don't WANT it to be!
Being a Business Siren means working, making money, "doing" what you want - from from a place that doesn't feel like work.
A place inside you that feels like all you're doing is fully expressing yourself. And doing it in a way that doesn't even feel like "doing"!
Even if you can't quite find a solution to merging what you feel and what you want to do with profit and financial security - I may be able to.
If you'd like to talk with me personally to see if you and I are a good match to work together in one of my coaching programs or the Siren Sisterhood Mastermind (BIZ is starting March 14th, and it's for you if you have an idea, a dream, and would like to see that dream become REAL in only 8 weeks...) - just go here and schedule private phone or video Skype time with me:
http://businesssiren.com/meet-with-rori/ Every tree looks different -- like a completely different sculpture.
Well, the same with us.
We are who and how we are largely because of how we've compensated. And how we've torqued.
What we're doing here with all my work is tracing back the train of how all this occurred and reworking it, re-strengthening the weak parts, re-straightening the torqued parts, through awareness and using my tools.
The one thing we are not doing (and the one thing I'm not doing with my body either) is searching for and focusing on the moments in our lives that caused parts of us to stop functioning the way they should.
I'm not going to blame myself or anyone else for what I did and didn't do - the situps, the stretches, the yoga classes I passed on.
I'm not going to blame myself for doing situps when I should've been doing leg raises. Not going to blame myself for wearing those awful shoes or eating what I ate or anything else.
I'm taking it from here. Starting from here.
The same with my insides. The same with your insides.
The same with your work life and your love life.
Start from where you are. Use my Tools to undo the torque and rewire the compensation.
For now, let's start with just a basic awareness -- We are all torqued. We have all compensated. We all have weaknesses and strengths.
Just like I'm learning to differentiate between the different muscles in my abs and the different muscles in my butt, and just how I'm trying to learn to walk without using my shoulders to hold me up, I want you to start noticing how you're holding your self up.
Have you noticed how you get emotionally triggered in certain situations? Are you giving yourself a chance to experience that? And giving yourself a chance to love and embrace all of those triggered feelings? Because those triggered feelings are your emotional system letting you know where your emotional torque is.
Your strong reactions to things are letting you know how your body has handled pain.
How your mind and your heart and the cells of your body have handled pain.
If you're feeling frustration, if you're feeling stuck, if you want some help re-creating your work life in a way that makes you feel happy, that makes you money, and STILL makes you feel like a glorious, soft girl who's perfectly positioned for a great love life, too - let me know:
http://businesssiren.com/meet-with-rori/ Don't ask yourself where pain came from, or what happened to you that got you triggered.
Just notice the pain, the compensation, the tension and the torque, embrace it, feel thrilled that you have unearthed it, and use my Tools to work through it and come out the other side.
Let me know what you discovered about your compensatory torque -- physical, mental, psychological, emotional, spiritual -- and what happens as you work through it. Let me know how it feels as you uncover your compensation for your pain. Let me know how it all shows up for you. And we'll take it from there.
Love, Rori
Posted By: How May I Help You NC
Thursday, March 3rd 2016 at 9:02AM
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